Many couples get freaked out after years of marriage and all of a sudden they feel sexually incompatible. It’s actually really normal in long-term relationships. Sexual incompatibility can pop up after the birth of a child, during menopause, or it can be medically influenced. Sexual incompatibility is also common among military couples who experience long…
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5 Steps to Create a Sexually Empowered Life
One of the questions I’m routinely asked is, “How do I create a sexually empowered life?” It seems every woman wants one, but it’s a mystery about what it might look like or the steps one needs to take to create it. The #metoo movement has women talking more openly about past sexual traumas and…
Castles and Masquerade Parties
This morning I was reflecting on my personal growth journey. When I look back at who I was growing up, I am unrecognizable. My thoughts and dreams are so different from when I was a little girl. I grew up in a home where performance and perfectionism were required for love and acceptance. That lead…
3 Tips for Building Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship
Great sex doesn’t just happen. It takes time to learn your partner’s desires and turn-ons. It also takes time to understand and acknowledge your partner’s mindset about sex. Men and women are wired differently, and it’s important to take those differences into consideration. One of the most significant roadblocks to great sex is the inability…
Positive Body Image Enhances Intimacy
Most adults struggle with their reflection when they look in the mirror and honestly assess their body.
Connect With Your Sexuality
Desire is an energizing force in the universe. It isn’t something to be ashamed of, it is a natural part of life. Yet, many of us grew up with shame attached to our bodies and to our sexuality. For some of us, sexual desire was something sinful, and we were taught it should be hidden…
The Filthiest Five-letter Word: How the Origins of Conscious and Subconscious Shame have Negatively Colored Our Feelings about Sex
Shame is so insidious that we feel shame even talking about shame. – Xanet Pailet